"I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness, the light of your own being."- Hafez of Persia/ Iran.
Lately, I've realized something, in fact, I've been observing: People, actors in movies, my pets. It occurred to me how lonely we can become. Our emotions are searching for some compatible, and fulfilling companion to mask the solitude. Normally, this is how we are created-to be in the company of another and that's 100% perfect in my books. But, then there comes a time when we take it too far. The need to always be in someone's presence, in the midst of a crowd, to be talking all the time and putting your life on hold to fill a void.
That's the point when we need some self realization to know that while people are required in our lives-we also need ourselves. To focus on who we are, to discover, explore, and enjoy moments of being alone. I think that makes us stronger emotionally and curbs the deep, hurtful loneliness when we are at our wits end in the need of company. I mean when you think about it in retrospect, your soul came in here in a body-alone and will return to its maker-alone. To each body, each soul and while we feel the need to cling to another soul, we're all just one soul-one body-one spirit. Yes, we were made for each other but not to desperately cling in the search of our satisfaction-to the point where you accept situations you know deep down are emotionally damaging.
Instead of needing someone all the time, divert your focus on the project you've been delaying. FORCE YOURSELF emotionally, until it becomes a habit to not always be in the need of another person. To finally accept your own company- to accept you!!!
Try taking a walk, investing time in giving back to your community, enjoy a movie marathon, wash your clothes, study, meditate, educate yourself on world affairs. Try and hug onto the solitude and discover something about yourself or the world in the process. It's not hard. I've tried it. I've cut myself off from one addicting social media, visited Skype a few times and basically harvested all the time in my art-the love of my life. and believe me, it's paying off because my work has improved- will show you the results in time.
Anyways, all I have to say is that people won't always be around and as much as it hurts, we have to appreciate being in our own company sometimes. I write only to advise that it's okay to feel alone sometimes, just as much as it's 100 % necessary to have people in our lives.
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